| Perfil de BaileySwivels the SticklerFotosBlogListas | Ajuda |
|
28 de dezembro firstsYesterday was the first time that my pedometer showed over 10,000 steps; that's the goal, apparently. Yesterday we bought Todd his first button-up dress shirt. Well, that's not entirely true... he wore dress shirts when he was very young, maybe 4 years old. And he had one for his private school uniform in grade two. But this was the first one in many many years. Yesterday was the first time I'd been in a clothing store that intentionally closed its fitting rooms. Idiotic, but true. Urban Behavior would not allow customers to try clothes on during its boxing week sale. Isn't that one of the stupidest things you've ever heard? Even nuttier, there actually were people buying clothes without trying them on! Today I had my first Tim Horton's French Vanilla. Is Mark trying to turn me into a coffee drinker? Actually, it wasn't half bad. The top three-quarters was quite enjoyable. 27 de dezembro a material girlTodd got me a fabulous wristlet BAM Bag for Christmas! Mine is a mossy green. They're made of one long zipper - you can actually unzip the entire bag if you want to. ![]() He also gave me a set of martini glasses. I should be drinking a crantini right now. My mom gave me the set of bracelets she got from her brother and SIL. They're really small and she couldn't fit them over her wrist, so now they're my Singapore bling. My parents gave us nice suitcases with built-in garment bags. Lyndon is giving me a cruise! where is the church?Where is the church? Or, who is the church? I'm reading Brother Andrew's Operation Desert Light and he writes about visiting a group of Palestinian muslims who were deported by Israel into Lebanon (in 1993) and put out onto the side of a mountain. Conditions in their makeshift camp were very bad when Andrew visited, bringing Bibles and The Hiding Place printed in Arabic. Andrew asked the imam whether they were still having prayers every day, five times a day. "Yes, of course," was the answer, so Andrew asked where it was that they prayed, since there was no mosque at the camp. The imam answered, "Every tent is a mosque." The answer shook me. It suddenly dawned on me that Islam didn't rely on a building. For many Christians, the Church couldn't function without buildings.I've struggled against that attitude that church is someplace rather than the people. If church is a place, we can leave it behind (say at 12 noon on a Sunday). If church is God's people - the body of Christ - then I am always the church (but especially when I am with other believers). 22 de dezembro today's BreakpointChristmas Eve, 1941: Sergeant Sidney Stewart was preparing American troops to leave Manila to fight the Japanese in Bataan. Working late in his office, he looked up to find a white-robed Catholic priest at his door. Stewart, a Protestant boy from Oklahoma, did not know it, but his life would soon be intertwined with the frail-looking priest. (c) 2006 Prison Fellowship May you & I be willing to bring the presence of God into the lives we touch. 20 de dezembro community, part twoBack to Joseph Myers' The Search to Belong: rethinking intimacy, community, and small groups.
Joseph relates that for several months he and his wife attended a church whenever they were not out-of-town. They were surprised then to be greeted with "It has been really nice to have you two popping in and out" since in their minds they belonged until this woman (perhapy unintentionally) let them know that they weren't following that community's rules of belonging.
This is hard for me - letting people participate in our "rituals" (not that I want to think of them as rituals!) if they don't really understand what they're doing. Of course, none of us FULLY understand the meaning of what we do in corporate worship, for instance. But what about informed consent?
Myers tells the story of being informed by the hospital that a Mrs. Peterson had died. Though he asked the elders and the old timers and checked the records, he could find no mention of Mrs. Peterson, and no one who knew her. At the funeral he learned that one of the church members who'd since died had regularly been "neighborly" to Mrs. Peterson and thus she had felt like she belonged to that church. She even left money to the church in her will. That church was significant to her, even if it wasn't on the terms that the church members would have defined.
Who is our neighbor? How should we love them? What is the neighborhood of the church? How do we help people move toward a healthy experience of community and belonging?
Small groups work for some people. So do Sunday School, seeker worship, service groups. But we must be careful not to simply give someone another numbing thing to do that masks the real, nagging ache of their search for a neighbor, for family, for belonging.
11 de dezembro Anne Lamott quoteI know that every time I call out for help, the phone rings, or the mail comes, or I get that noodgey Holy Spirit feeling inside, and enough of an answer to take the next right step. 06 de dezembro Nadia writes about adventFabulous! A thoughtful blog entry about advent for me (and you!) to consider: This first day of Advent has me wondering about waiting and disappointment. There's a certain deliciousness to waiting, in that when you're preparing for something to happen or to arrive, that time is filled with possibility. You have not yet been disappointed by the actuality of the event or object. As a child I remember the anticipation of what I would get for Christmas. My mom would give us the Sears Wish Book (a catalogue of Christmas gifts) and we would circle what we wanted, which we generally never actually got. It took me years to realize that my Mom didn't actually shop at Sears but at the "BX", (or "PX") at the Air Force Base. This is sort of like a discount store filled with last year's products and off-brands that went unsold at regular stores, or simply just random stuff that the military got a deal on. So we got whatever happened to be on sale at the PX, which pretty much never was the cool stuff in the Sears Wish Book,(this wan an economic necessity given our military pay). http://sarcasticlutheran.typepad.com/sarcastic_lutheran I'd like to have seen some reference to advent as waiting for the return of Christ, as Nadia seems to focus on God in our lives now (which is all great, don't misunderstand me). We ARE preparing for something to happen, for Someone to arrive again. What does that preparation look like in my life? Otherwise, very refreshing. We can't predict how God is going to show up; we can't put him into a box and think we've got it figured out. I will think a lot today about the Holy Disappointment of Advent. How will I be 'disappointed' by Christ's return? What am I doing to be saved from the idolatry of a commercial christmas? 05 de dezembro communityI've been struggling with Joseph Myers' book for over a month now: The Search to Belong: rethinking intimacy, community, and small groups A non-profound struggle is with the publisher. The typeface is very difficult to read and quotes are inserted in illogical places within the text. More profound struggles are these: He proposes that small groups are not the answer, but with the way that I'm wired, small groups are an answer for me. Larger groups or looser groupings don't work well to foster my growth or my sense of belonging. Myers investigates how the culture and how the church have defined and promoted "healthy community," and he proposes letting connections happen more naturally. This reminds me of a conversation I had years ago, in which a newish friend was asking for space, for permission to chitchat rather than be expected to match my tone, which apparently was too open/authentic. My reply was that I'd had several friendships for many years that never naturally progressed from watercooler talk to anything significant, and I really wasn't interested in having yet another friendship like that. Not exactly a tactful reply, but it was honest and the result was a wonderful friendship that continues to this day, and she is the friend who I feel is the most authentic with me. Myers outlines common myths of belonging: "Myth: More time = more belonging" I agree with him here; time does not necessarily make relationships good. I spent a LOT of time with one of those watercooler-talk friends, but that time did not automatically make our relationship deeper. "Myth: More commitment = more belonging When we search to belong, we aren't really looking for commitment. We simply want to connect." He writes about our commitment to our financial responsiblities not causing us to experience belonging. He asserts that relationships can be significant without being "close" or "committed.""Myth: More purpose = more belonging" True; a common passion/purpose does not guarantee connection. Myers also quotes George Bullard's comparison of committees and teams with communities, in terms of formation (elected, appointed, recruited, drafted vs. voluntarily connected), focus (making decisions, setting policies, maturing to high-task-performance vs. focus on adding relationships, meaning, & experiences), membership (fixed term vs. come-and-go with no bounds), outside assistance (consultants or coaches vs. advocates), recruitment (people of position, influence, or expertise for task vs. people of passion who want to help), benefits (building ownership/loyalty or providing effective action quickly vs. providing enthusiasm and meaningful relationships), and style of work (make lasting & efficient decisions and debate pros and cons of choices to produce a quality outcome vs. dialogue and discernment activities). Contemplating Bullard's comparisons in more detail may be worthwhile for Willowlake. "Myth: More personality = more belonging" Folks with outgoing personalities don't necessarily have a lot of good friendships. "Myth: More proximity = more belonging" Myers holds out digital connections as an example of this, but I am not convinced. I've been influenced by Refrigerator Rights in terms of the of drawbacks of transience. "Myth: More small groups = more belonging" Myers strongly encourages us to examine the assertion that small groups are the best way to build authentic community, because they "do not accomplish the promise of fulfilling all facets of a person's search for community. Small groups deliver only on one or two specific kinds of connection. A person's search for community is more complex than this. I am not against small groups. I am against small groups being used and marketed as the 'end-all' solution for answering the individual's need to belong." Maybe this is where it breaks down for me. I'm not convinced that I'm searching to belong. That isn't a word/concept that would have occured to me. Given the book's title, perhaps that means I shouldn't have even picked it up! This may be a postmodern thing... they apparently desire to "belong before they believe." Myers challenges us to think about what it means to belong; definitions vary widely. What does it mean to "belong before we believe"? How do we communicate "belonging"? And how should we? In holding to the truths of our faith, can we allow people to belong before they know or fully understand what they are getting themselves into? Or better yet, what would we be getting into ourselves if we allowed just anyone to belong? I was initially threatened by the book, but that's because I don't want my small groups taken away from me! That is looking at things very selfishly, not caring about others who might wish to 'belong before they believe.' But this open-belonging idea was even more threatening. I'm the lady behind the man who keeps talking about raising the bar with regard to church membership! Myers outlines four spaces that communicate how we belong to each other: public: 12 feet + social: 4 to 12 feet personal: 18 inches to 4 feet intimate: 0 to 18 inches He considers belonging to be multidimensional: people belong to us on different levels. He uses this as a framework for his understanding of the language of belonging, a way of recognizing, describing, and validating/invalidating the ways we build healthy community and employ specific spaces to communicate belonging. (to be continued) 02 de dezembro weight gain aheadCranberry-Orange bagels are dangerously delicious. I just thought you should know. it gets worse?I heard on the radio that after age forty, many people start losing their nouns. I am definitely getting close to forty (17 months to go) and experience this too much already. This is when you hear folks say: "Can you hand me the... uh, the... er, the thing - over there - the... I think it's right behind you, the... uh... uh... argh!" or"Where is my... my... you know, my thingamagig... the whatsit!?" |
|
|